So I’m a Tom Girl at heart and don’t understand Gossip i avoid it at all cost. If it weren’t for the possible added drama i would pipe up and ask people to Stop It. It seems a battle not worth my time. Especially when it comes to gossip queens/drama queens. Why talk about everyone who isn’t in the room. Why not talk about good things…uplifting things or better yet each others lives or helping others. Anywho Thanksgiving was great. I’m grateful for choices. I love my family but man growing up with 5 sisters and a single mom there was gona be some drama. It’s fun to get together but I’m all about being me and that doesn’t involve gossip. It’s just no good.
I can see that sometimes people don’t understand each other or why someone is so sensitive or different from them. I also understand that if someone doesn’t like an individual it’s easier to find flaws in them, to make themselves feel better. I understand why they do it, that doesn’t make it right or healthy. Heck i admit to gossiping myself. There is always that one person who just gets under your skin or who completely broadsides you with an insult in front of all of your friends. However, even after that i didn’t tell everyone. But i did tell one friend who lives out of state and will never meet her and the Hubby. Even then i realize that i don’t have to create drama. I realize that no matter what the reason someone is “themselves” i don’t have to react. (ironically i keep misspelling drama – druama as in trauma. Funny how the mind works)
“What we react to in others we create in ourselves” Eckhart Tolle
That means i don’t even have to pass it along. No need to spread negative vibes to my Hubby or Friend. I don’t know how people live with sharing negative stuff with everyone all the time. Man, Sadly those are people that i limit my time with. I want to make sure that when I’m with anyone Hubby, Friends included that I’m the kind of friend that they want to be around, Who makes them want to be a better person, Who inspires them.
So, starting right now I’m going to work on not reacting thru being more present. Ahhhh breath in that fresh air and start to notice all the good everywhere. Starting with Thanksgiving. I had a great time. I put my hubby and boys first making me 1.5 hours late for the Big Dinner but no guilt and luckily my family is cool and just started late anyways and knew we would show eventually. That’s just another reason i love my Mom. I got to go see The Christmas Carol at a Center Theater. It was amazing. I’ve seen the exact same play for 5 years in a row now but there are some serious themes talked about. Love is more important than all the money in the world. We are responsible to help others. We are blessed with the ability to change. It was great. I had the opportunity to help my Grandparent Friday and Saturday working in their Garage. The lake looks beautiful in the winter. Well there’s a start.
I’m lucky to have all of you as friends and you all inspire me is big and even little ways. Thanks for sharing part of your lives with me. Happy Holidays!
December 1st, 2009 at 1:06 pm
I hate that gossip breeds gossip, it can turn into a mob mentality. It’s so easy to get sucked into it and I hate it.
December 1st, 2009 at 3:23 pm
Thanks for stopping by my blog! I love that pumpkin cheesecake recipe, so I’m glad it’s low fat – and doesn’t TASTE it!
Isn’t it funny how all the family time together around the holidays makes the drama surface!? I’m with you – I try to keep my distance, but there’s always the persistent ones in the crowd that are hell bent on stirring something up!
My spam verification word is ikea – hehe now that makes me want to go shop!
December 2nd, 2009 at 12:38 pm
I’m glad you had a nice Thanksgiving! I agree, I hate gossip too…it only hurts people.
December 9th, 2009 at 11:01 am
I love holiday traditions and glad you had a nice time with your family!